Oxygen Magazine<\/a> and put it on my treadmill to run and I was like, do you mean like those girls in the magazine? He's like, yeah. Like, oh gosh. I don\u2019t know. He\u2019s like think about it, you got the shape they look for.<\/p>\nSo, I waited, and I decided why not. I wasn't doing much, I wasn't really satisfied with my job, I needed a goal. And so, I had some extra time on my hands and I just kind of took it on like that. Like hey, I'll try this thing. And, it was really, it started out being something that I could just apply my energy to that I felt good doing. Because we can either stay in a space and struggle with staying still or we can struggle trying to progress ourselves to somewhere new. And, I love growth. I'm like addicted to growth. I'm addicted to learning, I'm addicted to becoming a better person. So, that first show was really me pushing the boundaries on what I thought it was capable of. I never thought I could like diet like that or train that hard or I'd never thought I could push through soreness like that. I never thought my body could do those things. So, I ended up having a better body after my first show than I did when I was 18. It was awesome. And, I was just so excited that I discovered this new part of myself. Very unbalanced mind you. It was obsessive, it was for sure obsessive.<\/p>\n
So, I did my first show and I've never even seen one before. It was just a cool goal. I didn't even know. But I went and I was so happy to be there. I was just standing for these judges didn't care, did not even care what they thought. And I think that's probably why I won. Because, I just didn't give a crap what they had to say. I was just confident and happy in my body and the energy just like glue on stage, it was like a magnet and that's what attracted it.<\/p>\n
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Happiness Comes From Within | Question 6 - Did you ever think that one day you were going to be at the pinnacle of the fitness world?<\/strong><\/p>\nNo, not at all. I was just totally in the moment, I didn't even think about winning. I didn't even know that was possible. I didn't even know what winning would do. And then, like to God's grace, I ended up winning this thing they called a pro card. And the pro card is like where they have all the winners and the pro card then awarded me the ability to go to the World Championships. That was probably like three, four months later after that. And then so, when I decided I was going to go I then realized I was going to be on stage next to all the girls that were on the magazines that I used to be inspired by.<\/p>\n
It was nuts.<\/p>\n
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Happiness Comes From Within | Question 7 -<\/strong> So, this is really the meat of the conversation that I want to get into. Three-time world champion, multiple magazine covers, best body in the world. But somewhere along that journey your emotions took a toll and there was a very much a disconnect between this pinnacle that you were on, but the emotional sadness, if you will, that you felt inside. Would you mind getting into that?<\/strong><\/p>\nYeah, absolutely. My first World Championship, I had no idea what was going on and then the magazine's kept coming and the photo shoots kept coming. And then, I was gonna do the second world championship and that's when I could tell my ego kicked in. Because a lot of them called me a fluke. They said she's a fluke, she can't do it twice. And so, I was driven to prove them wrong and that was probably my hardest show. That was where the voices started to come back. Because it wasn't for me anymore, it was about wanting external validation. I wanted them to accept that I deserved it.<\/p>\n
So, I was proving something to someone. And so, it was really funny. During that prep, I remember being overweight on my living room floor crying because the voices my head were so loud. And I remember prepping for a show being called best body in the world alone on my living room floor crying, both unhappy. One overweight, one best body in the world. I mean the body didn't define my happiness and that was the biggest struggle of a show that I ended up doing. But it was beating that voice, it was finding a different reason that I think actually got me through. But it was just, it was such a huge lesson when the whisper before said you're going through this for a reason and then I heard that exact same thing again when I was at the pinnacle of my physicality. And it was the same feeling lonely, depressed, sad, and the body had nothing to do with it.<\/p>\n
Same feelings.<\/p>\n
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Happiness Comes From Within | Question 8 - Even though you went through a dark phase with this competition, you still learned. You took away some very, very valuable lessons. Which of those lessons would you say was the most important?<\/strong><\/p>\nI would have to say that when you live a life aligned with your values, and mine at that time was growth, that there's nothing in the world you can't do. And when you live a life that's in line with your values, that instills a confidence that is magnetic that everybody around may want it. But, if you are just organically attached to what's true to you, you can, and be, and do anything you want. I mean it just, then it just plays in, all the things happen for you. It doesn't become hard.<\/p>\n
So, whether it's getting the body that you want or starting a company or getting in a relationship that you feel you're deserving of. If you're in line with what matters to you, like your true values, you're not affected by the external, then things just happen for you. Then the world just comes into play and there's nothing you can't do.<\/p>\n
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Happiness Comes From Within | Question 9 - So, taking away these learnings, taking away your values and this growth mindset, how do you approach your body today?<\/strong><\/p>\nIt was such a mess to get to the spot that I'm in now like, oh God, when you, when you're in something for five, six years and how much of your abs are showing are directly tied to your self-worth, it takes a long time to get out of that. Like I probably I had eating issues, I had body-dysmorphia for sure. I didn't know how to do anything because my entire life was calculated, like how much you sleep, what you eat. Somebody told me what to eat for five six years. Like literally on a spreadsheet, I didn't know what to do. Like calories out was calculated, restaurants were a black hole, I couldn't go out and socialize with friends. I had to relearn everything.<\/p>\n
So, I have an issue with all-in and balance. I mean it's a value of mine. But I still believe that values can be things that we're striving for and balance, I mean you're always striving to stay on balance, right? So, I swung the other way again for a bit, you know, went out and partying too much for a while, definitely like just I was still trying to work out, got lost again. Like it probably took another, like five years to kind of get like back out. I left in 2011. So, I finally started to like rediscover myself at around like four years and I think I'm hummin\u2019 now. I think I finally have balance. The obsessions gone, the validation of the way the body looks is gone, you know, a lot of my friends say I\u2019m on a \u201cguy-et\u201d. Like I don't focus on what I eat ever, like I don't obsess about it at all.<\/p>\n
You will never catch me counting calories ever again and I don't think I can ever eat cucumbers anymore either, I\u2019ve eaten way too many in life. Fish and cucumbers, I can't handle them anymore. But I think it took me a long time to find where I am right now.<\/p>\n
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